A dysfunctional family?

When looking at the Wingfield family as a whole, I am think that Amanda, who I cannot picture as a grown woman because that is not an adult name, spends too much time and energy picturing what she wishes her children would be instead of accepting what they are. She is the girl who has the rest of her life planned out when she is twelve years old. EVeryone knows that things never turn out the way you think they will. If Amanda would just accept the fact that she has no control of the personalities her kids have now that they are adults, then she would not be as stressed. She could then embrace them for who they are and work with them as a family to be a unit. The mothers who are the ones that believe they have complete control over what their children do and how they act and believe they can dictate who they are by restraining their actions are the ones who have children that do not follow their standards. Instead Amanda could influence her children by her own actions and leading by her example. Eventually her children will catch onto the acceptable way to behave in society. I know I am talking like her kids are little, but I just cannot picture them as being adults in my head.